I have created a character Bible Study. This pages are meant to be copied double sided and stapled together then folded in half. When you do that, you create a little booklet that fits nicely in your Bible for your study of a character. There are three colors to choose from. The booklet itself is meant to be self explanatory. I have developed this for my ladies Bible class. Feel free to reach out to me with any questions you might have regarding the booklet. I also did different colors because, well, I love teal, but as I thought about it, it occurred to me that it might be nice to have a blue and pink copy so it is easy to tell if it is a man or a woman you are studying.
Tuesday, October 25, 2022
Monday, May 9, 2016
Bible Reading Plan
I like to keep things fresh in my bible reading. It helps me not to get into a rut but to always be looking for God to speak to me. I recently used another ladies journal. I loved it but it didn't have everything I would like so I made my own. I am making it available for others to use. I hope you enjoy it. You can find a pdf for Page 1 HERE and for Page 2 HERE. This way has been very meditative for me. I find myself slowing down as I write in these pages, instead of merely rushing through to get a job done. I have learned a lot about God. At first writing a prayer to God seemed weird but after just a couple of times I found I really enjoyed it. It is neat to track your prayers and see God working. It is also good to track your devotional life and see how God is speaking to you.
Monday, April 25, 2016
Why not restricting your kids tv/device time is good!
Summer time has come! Yay! We are finished early this year, that's always a nice feeling as a homeschooling mom! So what do I do now that my kids have tv and devices? They would love nothing more than to rot their brains by staying on them as much as they want . . . and that is exactly what I'm going to let that do! Yes, my kids will have as much time on their devices and watching tv as they want! For real! Have I convinced you yet? I really am that awesome of a mom to let them watch as much tv as they want. They can play and play and play on their devices. They can run the battery down, plug it in and let it charge while they watch tv and then go right back to their device. No kidding!
But wait . . . yes, there is a catch! To get this privilege there is a list of things they will have to do that will help them, will get them being creative and hopefully having more fun than they realize! This idea is not original to me I saw it on Facebook, but I made it my own and I encourage you to do that as well! Here is a link to my personalized list of rules: https://www.scribd.com/doc/310413925/Summer-Rules-for-Devices
We are only on day one but already my children are loving it. Instead of being a set of boring rules they have been responsible to set the timer. They have only done the required amount of time, but I'm hoping as they go through the summer they see how much fine they are having and turn off the timer and just enjoy the process! I plan on doing at least one of these with them every day!
It was neat to come into their room and see them coloring and drawing rather than being glued to a device.
But wait . . . yes, there is a catch! To get this privilege there is a list of things they will have to do that will help them, will get them being creative and hopefully having more fun than they realize! This idea is not original to me I saw it on Facebook, but I made it my own and I encourage you to do that as well! Here is a link to my personalized list of rules: https://www.scribd.com/doc/310413925/Summer-Rules-for-Devices
We are only on day one but already my children are loving it. Instead of being a set of boring rules they have been responsible to set the timer. They have only done the required amount of time, but I'm hoping as they go through the summer they see how much fine they are having and turn off the timer and just enjoy the process! I plan on doing at least one of these with them every day!
It was neat to come into their room and see them coloring and drawing rather than being glued to a device.
Tuesday, May 12, 2015
The S word . . .
In my daily bible reading I came across a verse in January that has really provoked some thought in me. Proverbs 24:21, 22 says: My son, fear thou the LORD and the king: and meddle not with them that are given to change: For their calamity shall rise suddenly; and who knoweth the ruin of them both? When I read that I started weeping. I have a friend who I have had the privilege of discipling and she is one of the most inconsistent people I know. She is always changing. I was so struck that her calamity was going to rise suddenly and her ruin would be so bad she wouldn't know where it came from. I just cried and wept and begged God if there was any hope for her.
Then the Lord directed my gaze to the first part of that verse Fear God and the King. WHAT in the world does fearing God and the King have to do with those that are given to change? EVERYTHING! Those that are always changing have no anchor. They have no stability. They often have none or very little direction or at least they don't have it very long until they change direction again. They are swept about with every wind of doctrine. They make decisions based up their feelings and impulses . . . a BAD reason to make decisions. They often do get destroyed. Those people NEED someone who can ground them. Someone who can help them focus. Someone who can help them get things done.
When we fear God that is not just talking about actually fear that he could strike me dead any moment kind of fear. It is also respect. Submission. There I said it . . . the S word! Submitting to God because of fear of Him but also respect. We get so caught up in the fact that God is love that we like to forget he can strike us dead at any moment. He is so powerful he can send a fireball to consume us or even just think and poof we are gone! God is someone we should fear. That fear is a good thing. That fear can keep us in line.
Then the bible goes on to tell us to fear the king . . . here in America we don't have a king but that doesn't get us off the hook. That king is representing the authorities placed BY GOD in our life! Lets talk about some of those authorities. They are definitely the president, the laws, police officers, etc. But on a more personal level it would be our boss, our pastor, our pastor's wife (if she is involved in a ministry that is over us), deacons, some might have sunday school superintendents, trustees in the church, and before all that our husbands. For the sake of this S word I'm only going to talk about God and our husbands.
How are we to submit to God? God tells us in Proverbs 3:5, 6 to Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thy own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy paths. We are to submit to God in every way, every place, every attitude, every word, everything we wear, or eat, or go. Basically in every single moment of my life I need to acknowledge God and that He is LORD of my life. He is the Ruler of my life and whatever he would want me to do, eat, wear, go, say, etc. I do exactly that. I know that we fail in this but if we try to do this I know it pleases God. The more we do this the easier it gets in doing this. God asks us to submit to Him in EVERY area of our life. He has promises that if we do he will direct our paths. If God directs my path I WON'T take a wrong step. I won't make a mistake. I will be successful because God tells us in Jeremiah that he knows the thoughts he has toward us, thoughts to prosper us and give us peace. (I think paraphrased there so it is not the KJV but it's also not another version just my memory.) God wants us to have success and he has guaranteed it under the perimeters of our submission to Him in EVERY single area of our life!
Now how about them husbands of ours? How are we to submit to them? In every area they ask us to. See God sees and knows everything about us. He counts the hair on our heads, he knows our thoughts and desires. He knows what we are going to do before we do it. God is powerful like that. So that's why we submit in EVERY single area of our life, because he knows if we don't. But our husbands are human. They can't know any of that. They may know our desires some of the time but not all the time. So how do we submit to our husbands? In every way they ask us to. Some wives may have to submit in what they wear whereas other husbands have no clue and could care less what their wives wear as long as they are not flaunting themselves for the world to see. Some women may have to submit on what they cook for their husbands where other husbands don't have much of a palette and just don't really care what they eat. (i.e. I am NEVER allowed to mix my food together in what is called a casserole. I married a Southern boy and they don't mix their food. But when he is gone or am at a potluck where I know a dear lady is bringing fried chicken, I will sometimes make a casserole. ;) ) Some women may have to submit in their finances when some husbands ask their wives to be in control of the money. This type of submission does not cause us to lose our voice, rather it helps give us security, safety, boundaries that protect us. For the most part my husband doesn't rule every area of my life but when he asks me to submit, if I want to be right with God, I will.
Now, do our husbands makes mistakes? YES! What if they ask you to miss church? drink alcohol? wear something inappropriate? to not tithe? etc. That's wrong. Then you do as Shadrach, Meshech, and Abednego did you submit to the consequences. These three boys disobeyed the king and when the king said the penalty for not bowing down to my idol is being thrown in the fiery furnace they willingly went. God spared their life and as a result the King was influenced to change the law so everyone was to worship God. They stood against the king but submitted to the consequences. If my husband asked me to miss church I would hopefully sweetly tell him why I thought that was wrong and ask him if I could go. If he still didn't change his mind I would do what God wants me to accepting the consequences. However, there is a disclaimer here: if my husband EVER beat me, I'd throw his butt in jail faster than he could blink. You don't have to put up with that! That's not letting him break the law. But more often than not if we approach our husbands with something we want to do that we know God would have us do they can be swayed.
I remember a time when my husband didn't want to tithe to a church we were attending because he didn't believe in the church. He also said he didn't want to because we weren't making enough to tithe. I had a grocery budget of $50 a week. I told him if he wasn't going to tithe I was going to take it from the grocery money. He said whatever. For two weeks I tithed $42 and God provided for all our needs and many of our wants! As a result we now tithe every time we get paid and often more than a tithe! Sure I went against my husband but I had the right attitude and accepted the consequence of only have $8 a week to feed 5 people. As a result my husband saw the error of his ways and changed. I'm really thankful it only took 2 weeks because I was having to get REAL creative with the menu!
In conclusion we are to submit to God in EVERY area and to our husbands in every way they ask us to. Submission to God ALWAYS comes first. So we submit to God and submit to the consequences of sometimes having to go against our husbands. But as we do we often find that our husbands come around. The world portrays them as dumb and ignorant but they aren't. They are worthy of us submitting to them but also God commanded us. We don't need a call when we have a command! Submitting to God can be very liberating! It doesn't cause us to lose our voice but often to find a better voice! We still maintain our individuality but we often gain stability! The S word isn't so bad of a word after all!
Then the Lord directed my gaze to the first part of that verse Fear God and the King. WHAT in the world does fearing God and the King have to do with those that are given to change? EVERYTHING! Those that are always changing have no anchor. They have no stability. They often have none or very little direction or at least they don't have it very long until they change direction again. They are swept about with every wind of doctrine. They make decisions based up their feelings and impulses . . . a BAD reason to make decisions. They often do get destroyed. Those people NEED someone who can ground them. Someone who can help them focus. Someone who can help them get things done.
When we fear God that is not just talking about actually fear that he could strike me dead any moment kind of fear. It is also respect. Submission. There I said it . . . the S word! Submitting to God because of fear of Him but also respect. We get so caught up in the fact that God is love that we like to forget he can strike us dead at any moment. He is so powerful he can send a fireball to consume us or even just think and poof we are gone! God is someone we should fear. That fear is a good thing. That fear can keep us in line.
Then the bible goes on to tell us to fear the king . . . here in America we don't have a king but that doesn't get us off the hook. That king is representing the authorities placed BY GOD in our life! Lets talk about some of those authorities. They are definitely the president, the laws, police officers, etc. But on a more personal level it would be our boss, our pastor, our pastor's wife (if she is involved in a ministry that is over us), deacons, some might have sunday school superintendents, trustees in the church, and before all that our husbands. For the sake of this S word I'm only going to talk about God and our husbands.
How are we to submit to God? God tells us in Proverbs 3:5, 6 to Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thy own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy paths. We are to submit to God in every way, every place, every attitude, every word, everything we wear, or eat, or go. Basically in every single moment of my life I need to acknowledge God and that He is LORD of my life. He is the Ruler of my life and whatever he would want me to do, eat, wear, go, say, etc. I do exactly that. I know that we fail in this but if we try to do this I know it pleases God. The more we do this the easier it gets in doing this. God asks us to submit to Him in EVERY area of our life. He has promises that if we do he will direct our paths. If God directs my path I WON'T take a wrong step. I won't make a mistake. I will be successful because God tells us in Jeremiah that he knows the thoughts he has toward us, thoughts to prosper us and give us peace. (I think paraphrased there so it is not the KJV but it's also not another version just my memory.) God wants us to have success and he has guaranteed it under the perimeters of our submission to Him in EVERY single area of our life!
Now how about them husbands of ours? How are we to submit to them? In every area they ask us to. See God sees and knows everything about us. He counts the hair on our heads, he knows our thoughts and desires. He knows what we are going to do before we do it. God is powerful like that. So that's why we submit in EVERY single area of our life, because he knows if we don't. But our husbands are human. They can't know any of that. They may know our desires some of the time but not all the time. So how do we submit to our husbands? In every way they ask us to. Some wives may have to submit in what they wear whereas other husbands have no clue and could care less what their wives wear as long as they are not flaunting themselves for the world to see. Some women may have to submit on what they cook for their husbands where other husbands don't have much of a palette and just don't really care what they eat. (i.e. I am NEVER allowed to mix my food together in what is called a casserole. I married a Southern boy and they don't mix their food. But when he is gone or am at a potluck where I know a dear lady is bringing fried chicken, I will sometimes make a casserole. ;) ) Some women may have to submit in their finances when some husbands ask their wives to be in control of the money. This type of submission does not cause us to lose our voice, rather it helps give us security, safety, boundaries that protect us. For the most part my husband doesn't rule every area of my life but when he asks me to submit, if I want to be right with God, I will.
Now, do our husbands makes mistakes? YES! What if they ask you to miss church? drink alcohol? wear something inappropriate? to not tithe? etc. That's wrong. Then you do as Shadrach, Meshech, and Abednego did you submit to the consequences. These three boys disobeyed the king and when the king said the penalty for not bowing down to my idol is being thrown in the fiery furnace they willingly went. God spared their life and as a result the King was influenced to change the law so everyone was to worship God. They stood against the king but submitted to the consequences. If my husband asked me to miss church I would hopefully sweetly tell him why I thought that was wrong and ask him if I could go. If he still didn't change his mind I would do what God wants me to accepting the consequences. However, there is a disclaimer here: if my husband EVER beat me, I'd throw his butt in jail faster than he could blink. You don't have to put up with that! That's not letting him break the law. But more often than not if we approach our husbands with something we want to do that we know God would have us do they can be swayed.
I remember a time when my husband didn't want to tithe to a church we were attending because he didn't believe in the church. He also said he didn't want to because we weren't making enough to tithe. I had a grocery budget of $50 a week. I told him if he wasn't going to tithe I was going to take it from the grocery money. He said whatever. For two weeks I tithed $42 and God provided for all our needs and many of our wants! As a result we now tithe every time we get paid and often more than a tithe! Sure I went against my husband but I had the right attitude and accepted the consequence of only have $8 a week to feed 5 people. As a result my husband saw the error of his ways and changed. I'm really thankful it only took 2 weeks because I was having to get REAL creative with the menu!
In conclusion we are to submit to God in EVERY area and to our husbands in every way they ask us to. Submission to God ALWAYS comes first. So we submit to God and submit to the consequences of sometimes having to go against our husbands. But as we do we often find that our husbands come around. The world portrays them as dumb and ignorant but they aren't. They are worthy of us submitting to them but also God commanded us. We don't need a call when we have a command! Submitting to God can be very liberating! It doesn't cause us to lose our voice but often to find a better voice! We still maintain our individuality but we often gain stability! The S word isn't so bad of a word after all!
Monday, January 12, 2015
Crown vs. Corruption
I was recently reading my bible and came across this verse in Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."
WOW! I just had to stop and ponder that verse. That verse hurts every wife no matter how good they are because we all can look back at times that we were corruption for our husbands instead of a crown.
Think about a crown for a minute. A crown is something that immediately identifies someone as a person of importance. It is something that gives you a social standing in this world. It is something that gives you power. It is something that belongs to those who are rich. It is given to someone of nobility. As a wife we can make that true for our husbands. We can be a crown. How? By being virtuous.
That begs the questions, what is a virtuous woman. It is someone who has strength. Strength of character and physical strength. Someone who is a hard worker. Someone who makes right choices even when it is hard.
Being virtuous also means having might. Might isn't something you are necessarily born with but through hard work and perseverance anyone can have it!
Being virtuous means having ability. To have ability you might be born with it, but you also have to develop it. I didn't have cooking ability when I was first married, but that didn't stop me from trying and learning. Now if you look at me and my husband, you realize I have pretty good cooking ability! Being a virtuous woman means you are teachable and always trying to learn and become more able.
Being a virtuous woman means you are efficient. We waste so much time. We waste time on tv, being lazy, and being unorganized. Organization is not a bad word. It is also something ANYONE can learn. I really believe that. It takes work to be organized and stay organized but being organized makes us so much more efficient! Get a meal plan, get a budget, get a schedule it will help you become more efficient.
Being virtuous means wealth. If you look at the Proverbs 31 lady, she was the epitome of a virtuous woman! She had wealth. Work hard. Find your proverbs 31 job. Maybe you can do something crafty that will make your family money. Maybe you can teach music lessons. Maybe you can clean houses or be a nanny or a babysitter. Maybe you can be a tutor. Think about your abilities and how you can make money from it! Even if you a stay at home mom find a way to bring in a little money. It will help you and your family!
Being a virtuous woman also means being powerful.
When we do and be these things that embody a virtuous woman we are a crown to our husbands. I want to be a crown. I want people to look at my husband and think what a powerful, noble person he is. I want him to have all God has for him. I don't want to be corruption.
Rottenness to his bones. That makes me shudder. To be corruption to your husband. I see so many women who have wonderful husbands but they constantly make their husbands ashamed. They put their husband to shame. Their actions and attitudes disconcert their husbands and cause them to be disappointed. I don't want to be corruption to my husband. My desire is to do him good and not evil all the days of his life! I want to be a crown . . . not corruption.
This is dedicated to my loving, wonderful husband, Joshua Johnson. I love you so much Baby! I am so blessed to be your wife. You truly have made me a better woman! Thanks for not only putting up with me, but trying to develop me! I don't deserver someone as good, wise, wonderful, loving, patient, kind, powerful, and handsome as you! I am the most blessed girl on the planet!
WOW! I just had to stop and ponder that verse. That verse hurts every wife no matter how good they are because we all can look back at times that we were corruption for our husbands instead of a crown.
Think about a crown for a minute. A crown is something that immediately identifies someone as a person of importance. It is something that gives you a social standing in this world. It is something that gives you power. It is something that belongs to those who are rich. It is given to someone of nobility. As a wife we can make that true for our husbands. We can be a crown. How? By being virtuous.
That begs the questions, what is a virtuous woman. It is someone who has strength. Strength of character and physical strength. Someone who is a hard worker. Someone who makes right choices even when it is hard.
Being virtuous also means having might. Might isn't something you are necessarily born with but through hard work and perseverance anyone can have it!
Being virtuous means having ability. To have ability you might be born with it, but you also have to develop it. I didn't have cooking ability when I was first married, but that didn't stop me from trying and learning. Now if you look at me and my husband, you realize I have pretty good cooking ability! Being a virtuous woman means you are teachable and always trying to learn and become more able.
Being a virtuous woman means you are efficient. We waste so much time. We waste time on tv, being lazy, and being unorganized. Organization is not a bad word. It is also something ANYONE can learn. I really believe that. It takes work to be organized and stay organized but being organized makes us so much more efficient! Get a meal plan, get a budget, get a schedule it will help you become more efficient.
Being virtuous means wealth. If you look at the Proverbs 31 lady, she was the epitome of a virtuous woman! She had wealth. Work hard. Find your proverbs 31 job. Maybe you can do something crafty that will make your family money. Maybe you can teach music lessons. Maybe you can clean houses or be a nanny or a babysitter. Maybe you can be a tutor. Think about your abilities and how you can make money from it! Even if you a stay at home mom find a way to bring in a little money. It will help you and your family!
Being a virtuous woman also means being powerful.
When we do and be these things that embody a virtuous woman we are a crown to our husbands. I want to be a crown. I want people to look at my husband and think what a powerful, noble person he is. I want him to have all God has for him. I don't want to be corruption.
Rottenness to his bones. That makes me shudder. To be corruption to your husband. I see so many women who have wonderful husbands but they constantly make their husbands ashamed. They put their husband to shame. Their actions and attitudes disconcert their husbands and cause them to be disappointed. I don't want to be corruption to my husband. My desire is to do him good and not evil all the days of his life! I want to be a crown . . . not corruption.
This is dedicated to my loving, wonderful husband, Joshua Johnson. I love you so much Baby! I am so blessed to be your wife. You truly have made me a better woman! Thanks for not only putting up with me, but trying to develop me! I don't deserver someone as good, wise, wonderful, loving, patient, kind, powerful, and handsome as you! I am the most blessed girl on the planet!
Are you an encourager or a discourager?
A few years ago I had the privilege of discovering my spiritual gift. I have the gift of administration (that one actually surprised me) and the gift of teaching and encouragement. The gift of administration is my top gift but the other two are right up there. I figured I had the gift of teaching but never thought I'd have the gift of administration or encouragement. I was attending a church where most of the people had the gift of mercy. Now people with the gift of administration rarely, if ever, have the gift of mercy. Sometimes when you are leading people you have to make hard decisions that run all over people's emotions. You try not to, but sometimes, you have to. It was very liberating to find out I had these gifts because being surrounded by people with the gift of mercy they were constantly trying to make me feel like I should be more merciful. They were constantly despising my gift and I theirs, because I didn't understand them and they didn't understand me. When I realized that I had this spiritual gift and they had theirs I was better able to live with them and I stopped trying to fit in their merciful mold. I was free to be my bossy, teaching, encouraging self! If you have not discovered your spiritual gift, you really ought to. Email me at joshsrib@aol.com or my husband at pastor@jacksonparkbaptist.com and I of he can send you a spiritual gift test for you to take.
Because I now know my spiritual gift when I read my bible, verses about ruling, servant leadership, encouragement, teaching, jump out and really resonate with me. (Side note: the interesting thing about spiritual gifts is that even though we tend to have between 1-3 spiritual gifts, we are still commanded to do all of them, i.e. I'm still commanded to give and to be merciful and to help but I don't major on those areas. I like to think of the 80/20 principle, 80% of my time and effort goes into developing and deploying my spiritual gifts. 20% goes into the others.) Today I was reading in Proverbs. Actually this year I am seeking to be a more wise person so I have determined to read a proverbs a day for the entire year, reading the book of proverbs 12 times this year! I'm really excited for this, because I know when I get to Isaiah and Jeremiah, as I read chronologically through the bible, I will need the encouragement to stay with reading my bible and this will help me continue to get stuff out of God's word! God has already taught me so much in the first 12 chapters of Proverbs. I'm looking forward to reading it again and again in the coming months.
Today I read Proverbs 12:25. It says, "Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad." I thought I knew what that meant but just to be safe decided to look up the meanings in my blue letter bible app that has a concordance (a dictionary of sorts for the original words in the greek and hebrew). The following was quite enlightening:
Heaviness -
* Anxiety
* Anxious Care
* Fear
* Sorrow
In the heart -
* Inner man
* Mind
* Will
* Heart
* Understanding
* Soul
* Seat of Emotions
* Seat of Courage
Maketh it Stoop -
* Bow Down
* Depress
Good -
* Good
* Agreeable
* Rich
* Valuable in Estimation
* Appropriate
Maketh it Glad -
* To Rejoice
* Be Glad
* Cause to Rejoice
* Be Merry
Do you know people who are heavy in heart? depressed? I know so many. I was at a restaurant last night and the music was blaring above my head and I told my husband that it didn't sound triumphant or happy, Every song had a touch of sadness. I told him that if I listened to that kind of music all the time I would live in a state of depression. The sad thing is that a lot of the world and even a lot of christians feed themselves a steady diet of this music. I know a lady, who as soon as anything she doesn't like happens or if someone hurts her feelings she immediately turns to Youtube and Yahoo Answers for the answers to her "problems" that are often self inflicted. That is a sad way to live. It is a very unstable way to live. So many around us have heavy hearts. This makes them stoop. This makes them hang their heads and walk around depressed.
The amazing thing is that God gives us an answer for that! It says if ONE PERSON will say ONE good word then it can make their heart glad. That's encouragement people! That can be a good word, a pleasant word, an agreeable word. It can be a word rich in meaning. It can also be an appropriate word, i.e. you don't want to make jokes at a funeral, nor would you want to say a depressing word at the birth of a child. You get the point, appropriate for the time and place. But I like the "valuable in estimation". John Maxwell says we need to put a 10 on everyone's head. Whenever we meet someone put a 10 on their head. This is not being naive. It is not even being a optimist. I consider it to be a realist point of view. If you put a 10 on someone's head even if they are a 5 you might be able to raise them to the standard of a 8 or even a 10! When we say words that show people we hold them valuable in our estimation that can really change a heart! That can make a person be better than they would be if they are depressed! People always work better in a happy environment where they know they are thought best of!
Look at what happens when we do this?! We cause their hearts to be glad, to rejoice, to be merry! Another verse says that "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones." ~ Proverbs 17:22. You can turn a depressed, sad, heart into a merry heart with just a good word . . . you can be medicine to that hurt heart. You can help change a life! Be an encourager today! NOT a discourager! Watch your words. Are they good, pleasant, agreeable, rich, valuable in estimation and appropriate words? If not, change them today!
Because I now know my spiritual gift when I read my bible, verses about ruling, servant leadership, encouragement, teaching, jump out and really resonate with me. (Side note: the interesting thing about spiritual gifts is that even though we tend to have between 1-3 spiritual gifts, we are still commanded to do all of them, i.e. I'm still commanded to give and to be merciful and to help but I don't major on those areas. I like to think of the 80/20 principle, 80% of my time and effort goes into developing and deploying my spiritual gifts. 20% goes into the others.) Today I was reading in Proverbs. Actually this year I am seeking to be a more wise person so I have determined to read a proverbs a day for the entire year, reading the book of proverbs 12 times this year! I'm really excited for this, because I know when I get to Isaiah and Jeremiah, as I read chronologically through the bible, I will need the encouragement to stay with reading my bible and this will help me continue to get stuff out of God's word! God has already taught me so much in the first 12 chapters of Proverbs. I'm looking forward to reading it again and again in the coming months.
Today I read Proverbs 12:25. It says, "Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad." I thought I knew what that meant but just to be safe decided to look up the meanings in my blue letter bible app that has a concordance (a dictionary of sorts for the original words in the greek and hebrew). The following was quite enlightening:
Heaviness -
* Anxiety
* Anxious Care
* Fear
* Sorrow
In the heart -
* Inner man
* Mind
* Will
* Heart
* Understanding
* Soul
* Seat of Emotions
* Seat of Courage
Maketh it Stoop -
* Bow Down
* Depress
Good -
* Good
* Agreeable
* Rich
* Valuable in Estimation
* Appropriate
Maketh it Glad -
* To Rejoice
* Be Glad
* Cause to Rejoice
* Be Merry
Do you know people who are heavy in heart? depressed? I know so many. I was at a restaurant last night and the music was blaring above my head and I told my husband that it didn't sound triumphant or happy, Every song had a touch of sadness. I told him that if I listened to that kind of music all the time I would live in a state of depression. The sad thing is that a lot of the world and even a lot of christians feed themselves a steady diet of this music. I know a lady, who as soon as anything she doesn't like happens or if someone hurts her feelings she immediately turns to Youtube and Yahoo Answers for the answers to her "problems" that are often self inflicted. That is a sad way to live. It is a very unstable way to live. So many around us have heavy hearts. This makes them stoop. This makes them hang their heads and walk around depressed.
The amazing thing is that God gives us an answer for that! It says if ONE PERSON will say ONE good word then it can make their heart glad. That's encouragement people! That can be a good word, a pleasant word, an agreeable word. It can be a word rich in meaning. It can also be an appropriate word, i.e. you don't want to make jokes at a funeral, nor would you want to say a depressing word at the birth of a child. You get the point, appropriate for the time and place. But I like the "valuable in estimation". John Maxwell says we need to put a 10 on everyone's head. Whenever we meet someone put a 10 on their head. This is not being naive. It is not even being a optimist. I consider it to be a realist point of view. If you put a 10 on someone's head even if they are a 5 you might be able to raise them to the standard of a 8 or even a 10! When we say words that show people we hold them valuable in our estimation that can really change a heart! That can make a person be better than they would be if they are depressed! People always work better in a happy environment where they know they are thought best of!
Look at what happens when we do this?! We cause their hearts to be glad, to rejoice, to be merry! Another verse says that "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones." ~ Proverbs 17:22. You can turn a depressed, sad, heart into a merry heart with just a good word . . . you can be medicine to that hurt heart. You can help change a life! Be an encourager today! NOT a discourager! Watch your words. Are they good, pleasant, agreeable, rich, valuable in estimation and appropriate words? If not, change them today!
Saturday, December 27, 2014
You Gotta Have a Plan!
It's that time of year again! The time when we start to think about New Year's resolutions, when we pull out a new bible reading plan in preparation for the coming year. I like what one lady said, "This year I'm not going to make New Year's Resolutions, I'm going to make promises!" One thing I do know for sure, if you aim at nothing you will hit it every time! I like what one boy aiming at the moon with a bb gun told a pessimistic old man who told him he was never going to hit it, "Well, Mister, I'll get a lot closer than you ever will!" That's a good way to think of New Year's Resolutions. We may miss our goal, but we will come a lot closer if we aim at something! This year I am aiming at reading my bible through chronologically. This is not the first time I've read my bible through this way, but it is definitely my favorite! I love seeing how Psalm corresponds to the Kings, Chronicles, and Samuels and how the Epistles correspond to Acts. I'm going to do a journal this year to help keep me accountable. Here are some links to some documents I've created to help me:
Chronological Bible Reading Plan
Journalling Pages for Chronological Bible Reading Plan
S.P.E.C.K.S. (6 things to look for as you read your passage, this helps keep me engaged while reading)
I hope you plan on reading your bible in a systematic way to help keep you accountable. Whether you do this or something else, aim at reading your bible and will do a lot more than if you have no plan!
Chronological Bible Reading Plan
Journalling Pages for Chronological Bible Reading Plan
S.P.E.C.K.S. (6 things to look for as you read your passage, this helps keep me engaged while reading)
I hope you plan on reading your bible in a systematic way to help keep you accountable. Whether you do this or something else, aim at reading your bible and will do a lot more than if you have no plan!
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
Getting to Know God Through His Names
I was reading in my devotions and I came across this verse in Psalms 54:1 "Save me, O God, by thy name," That prompted me to ponder how many names of God there are out there. Knowing someone smarter than I might have put it on the internet I searched and found a list. Much larger than I anticipated. There are well over 700 names for God! I'm systematically writing them in my book. I have written 260 so far. I'd like to share a few of my favorites:
Merciful God - Aren't you glad God is merciful? I am. There are so many things I have done that I should have been zapped dead for, but thankfully God is merciful! He loves me and helps me overcome those things! He doesn't leave me in my messes!
Nail in a Sure Place - I don't know why this one just stuck out but I can't get it out of my head. When things are going wrong and life seems unsure, He is my nail in a sure place. A place to hang my heart, my dreams, my worries on and He will take care of them!
Shadow from the Heat - I immediately thought of Jonah, sitting up there waiting for God to destroy the country of Ninevah. He got so mad when God didn't. Then God had a tree come up to give him shade and when a worm ate it the next day, Jonah got more mad. If he had only realized that God was his shadow from the heat, how much better off he would have been. But then I thought of myself. How do I respond when things don't go the way I think they should? When things get heated up? Do I run to God and let Him be my shadow or do I get mad and pout like Jonah?
Sure Foundation - I have always loved this one. There are few things in life that are certain or are worth building your life on, but God is our Sure Foundation! He will never fail us. If we build our life on Him we will succeed!
Buckler to all those that trust in Him - Again this goes along with the Sure Foundation. If we are trusting in God, he will uphold us and protect us! He will strengthen us!
Christ in you, the hope of glory - What do you hope for? Christ in me, the hope of glory. Letting Christ work in me will bring hope of glory. It will bring glory to God!
God ready to pardon - If you have lived very long at all you realize that you make mistakes and often they are toward people. How many people do you know that are ready to pardon you or ready to forgive you? Do you live ready to pardon and forgive those who wrong you? Let's be honest, it usually takes time to process forgiveness. God doesn't need time to process the hurt and how to forgive, he is always ready to forgive!
God, which always causeth us to triumph in Christ - I love this! We can always triumph! We can always have victory, if we living our lives in the presence of God. If we are letting him always work in us and through us!
He that is able to keep you from falling - I fall often. I make mistakes daily. But surrendering my life, my will, my emotions, my body, everything to God, God will help me not to fall!
He that worth miracles among us - God wants to do something miraculous! This one really resonated with me as I thought about going forward with this church plant! God wants to work a miracle among us . . . are we at a place in our life to receive it? do we even want it?
He which hath the sharp sword with two edges - REALLY think about this one . . . now what is the bible described as? sharper than any two edged sword! How cool is that?
He which is, and was, and is to come - Another name for this is I AM. I like this one! When my life is past, when this world is over, He will still be! This ought to motivate us to live like God and to live for Him!
He who has called you out of darkness into his marvelous light - Praise God for this! Praise God he didn't leave us blind. He didn't leave us hopeless! I have been depressed once. A real true depression. It was while I was pregnant with my son and for a little while after he was born. I had a hard time coming out in the light. I just wanted to stay in my dark room al day. But God brought us out that darkness and into his marvelous light! He also brought us out of the darkness of sin!
I am really enjoying learning about my God through His names! Names tell us so much about a person. A few of my names are Mom, Captain Patty, Mrs. Johnson, etc. These tell you some of the things I do. My name Patricia Ruth means Noble Friend. I hope to live up to that name. But how much more do the names of God tell us? They tell us so much about our God!
Merciful God - Aren't you glad God is merciful? I am. There are so many things I have done that I should have been zapped dead for, but thankfully God is merciful! He loves me and helps me overcome those things! He doesn't leave me in my messes!
Nail in a Sure Place - I don't know why this one just stuck out but I can't get it out of my head. When things are going wrong and life seems unsure, He is my nail in a sure place. A place to hang my heart, my dreams, my worries on and He will take care of them!
Shadow from the Heat - I immediately thought of Jonah, sitting up there waiting for God to destroy the country of Ninevah. He got so mad when God didn't. Then God had a tree come up to give him shade and when a worm ate it the next day, Jonah got more mad. If he had only realized that God was his shadow from the heat, how much better off he would have been. But then I thought of myself. How do I respond when things don't go the way I think they should? When things get heated up? Do I run to God and let Him be my shadow or do I get mad and pout like Jonah?
Sure Foundation - I have always loved this one. There are few things in life that are certain or are worth building your life on, but God is our Sure Foundation! He will never fail us. If we build our life on Him we will succeed!
Buckler to all those that trust in Him - Again this goes along with the Sure Foundation. If we are trusting in God, he will uphold us and protect us! He will strengthen us!
Christ in you, the hope of glory - What do you hope for? Christ in me, the hope of glory. Letting Christ work in me will bring hope of glory. It will bring glory to God!
God ready to pardon - If you have lived very long at all you realize that you make mistakes and often they are toward people. How many people do you know that are ready to pardon you or ready to forgive you? Do you live ready to pardon and forgive those who wrong you? Let's be honest, it usually takes time to process forgiveness. God doesn't need time to process the hurt and how to forgive, he is always ready to forgive!
God, which always causeth us to triumph in Christ - I love this! We can always triumph! We can always have victory, if we living our lives in the presence of God. If we are letting him always work in us and through us!
He that is able to keep you from falling - I fall often. I make mistakes daily. But surrendering my life, my will, my emotions, my body, everything to God, God will help me not to fall!
He that worth miracles among us - God wants to do something miraculous! This one really resonated with me as I thought about going forward with this church plant! God wants to work a miracle among us . . . are we at a place in our life to receive it? do we even want it?
He which hath the sharp sword with two edges - REALLY think about this one . . . now what is the bible described as? sharper than any two edged sword! How cool is that?
He which is, and was, and is to come - Another name for this is I AM. I like this one! When my life is past, when this world is over, He will still be! This ought to motivate us to live like God and to live for Him!
He who has called you out of darkness into his marvelous light - Praise God for this! Praise God he didn't leave us blind. He didn't leave us hopeless! I have been depressed once. A real true depression. It was while I was pregnant with my son and for a little while after he was born. I had a hard time coming out in the light. I just wanted to stay in my dark room al day. But God brought us out that darkness and into his marvelous light! He also brought us out of the darkness of sin!
I am really enjoying learning about my God through His names! Names tell us so much about a person. A few of my names are Mom, Captain Patty, Mrs. Johnson, etc. These tell you some of the things I do. My name Patricia Ruth means Noble Friend. I hope to live up to that name. But how much more do the names of God tell us? They tell us so much about our God!
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
When the foundations be destroyed . . .
"But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive." That is exactly what happened in our life but unlike Joseph in the bible I have the entire word of God, I have a GREAT church family that when I was hurting most encouraged me and didn't even know they were. I have the Comforter living inside of me constantly comforting me!
On a personal level I have parents that raised me in church so when bad things happen I know what I know and gave me a foundation that when physical things happen to me I know to run to God who is my help. I had a youth pastor that encouraged me to be in God's word daily and to memorize scripture because he knew hard times would come and when they did, I would help such as, "When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the Rock that is higher than I."
On a physical level I had a lady who listened to the Holy Spirit and took her money and got me groceries. What's really cool is that months ago she wouldn't have ever been able to do that because she would blow her husband's entire paycheck! I spent months teaching her to budget and how to budget and even taking her out to spend her money. This week she took me and guess what . . . with what she needed and what I needed we only went over her budget by $2! I honestly NEVER thought that would be one of the benefits of teaching her to budget! I just thought that I was helping her and her family!
On a parent level, God has given my children such a good and even an excited attitude during this time! I can't tell you what that means to me . . . it literally makes me cry when I think of it! When they exclaim excitement about what God is doing through this seemingly "bad" situation, I get so encouraged.
One of the best things I've had during this time is God's word. My favorite book of the bible is Philippians. Philippians was written while Paul was in one of the worst jails ever created . . . and yet the entire book is about rejoicing. It's also about being confident. When a trial of this magnitude comes it is easy to lose your confidence but that is not how God wants us to live and He gives us provision in His word to help prevent that!
WE got a letter on friday night after a GREAT VBS and it quite frankly rocked our world. God has used this to draw me closer to Him. On a humorous note I had to teach about Job to the children when I was facing the greatest trial we have ever faced in our life! Two things stuck out to me . . . Job didn't have the perfected word of God! He didn't have the whole counsel of God . . . He didn't know the story of Joseph going from the pit to Potipher's house, to prison and finally exalted to the Palace to be instrumental in saving much people. He didn't even know that there would be "the rest of the story" in his own life yet "in all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly." He actually said, "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the name of the Lord."
In my life recently God has given me great things, but God is also taking some away, but honestly it is just stuff. Not just that, what if he takes my children as He did Job's? I hope that as God continues to put me in the fire that I shall come forth as gold and be able to say with Job, "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the name of the Lord." I am publicly and have already privately thanked God for this trial because I know what I know.
I know my God is faithful. I know that he will never leave me nor forsake me. I know that He is my constant help. I know He will deliver me. I know that anything He does is for my good. I know that God is working in me to will and do of His good pleasure. I know that He has a will and that His ways are not our ways and that His thoughts are higher than ours. I know that God knows the future. I know that at the end of this trial I am going to talk about it and point others to Christ so honestly, why waste time complaining? Why not start praising God now and pointing others to Him now! I truly am more excited about the future!
On a personal level I have parents that raised me in church so when bad things happen I know what I know and gave me a foundation that when physical things happen to me I know to run to God who is my help. I had a youth pastor that encouraged me to be in God's word daily and to memorize scripture because he knew hard times would come and when they did, I would help such as, "When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the Rock that is higher than I."
On a physical level I had a lady who listened to the Holy Spirit and took her money and got me groceries. What's really cool is that months ago she wouldn't have ever been able to do that because she would blow her husband's entire paycheck! I spent months teaching her to budget and how to budget and even taking her out to spend her money. This week she took me and guess what . . . with what she needed and what I needed we only went over her budget by $2! I honestly NEVER thought that would be one of the benefits of teaching her to budget! I just thought that I was helping her and her family!
On a parent level, God has given my children such a good and even an excited attitude during this time! I can't tell you what that means to me . . . it literally makes me cry when I think of it! When they exclaim excitement about what God is doing through this seemingly "bad" situation, I get so encouraged.
One of the best things I've had during this time is God's word. My favorite book of the bible is Philippians. Philippians was written while Paul was in one of the worst jails ever created . . . and yet the entire book is about rejoicing. It's also about being confident. When a trial of this magnitude comes it is easy to lose your confidence but that is not how God wants us to live and He gives us provision in His word to help prevent that!
WE got a letter on friday night after a GREAT VBS and it quite frankly rocked our world. God has used this to draw me closer to Him. On a humorous note I had to teach about Job to the children when I was facing the greatest trial we have ever faced in our life! Two things stuck out to me . . . Job didn't have the perfected word of God! He didn't have the whole counsel of God . . . He didn't know the story of Joseph going from the pit to Potipher's house, to prison and finally exalted to the Palace to be instrumental in saving much people. He didn't even know that there would be "the rest of the story" in his own life yet "in all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly." He actually said, "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the name of the Lord."
In my life recently God has given me great things, but God is also taking some away, but honestly it is just stuff. Not just that, what if he takes my children as He did Job's? I hope that as God continues to put me in the fire that I shall come forth as gold and be able to say with Job, "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the name of the Lord." I am publicly and have already privately thanked God for this trial because I know what I know.
I know my God is faithful. I know that he will never leave me nor forsake me. I know that He is my constant help. I know He will deliver me. I know that anything He does is for my good. I know that God is working in me to will and do of His good pleasure. I know that He has a will and that His ways are not our ways and that His thoughts are higher than ours. I know that God knows the future. I know that at the end of this trial I am going to talk about it and point others to Christ so honestly, why waste time complaining? Why not start praising God now and pointing others to Him now! I truly am more excited about the future!
Sunday, June 22, 2014
How God Spoke to Me at a Funeral . . .
This week I had to opportunity to go to one of the best funeral services I have ever been too. I told my husband that heaven has never felt so real and in a good way such as that one. Some funerals heaven has felt real because it is a relief but this one heaven felt real for a different reason and a very good reason.
It was said of this dear man that he was kind, hard working, never angry except once, faithful, and many other wonderful things. I think one thing that wasn’t said that should have been was that he loved God and his church. I think it could have been said and should have been said. If you saw the bible placed under his hands you could definitely tell he loved God. And what was said was that he would do anything for you. He would help build or fix things and I know that he did work around this church. So I think it is very safe to say that he loved his church.
Then someone said, I want those things to be said about me. That got me to thinking . . . and then she challenged us with the same thought I was thinking: what do I want said about me?
Do I want it said that I made the world a little better place while here? Sure. But that is temporal. I don’t want it to be said that “She made earth a better place from which to go to hell”. I want to keep my eyes on the eternal.
My life verse is Psalm 71:17, 18 O God, thou hast taught me from my youth: and hitherto have I declared thy wondrous works. Now also when I am old and greyheaded, O God, forsake me not; until I have shewed thy strength unto this generation, and thy power to every one that is to come. If you go look on the platform that is what I wrote.
I also wrote something else. I wrote, “I want to return to “normal christianity” and let it begin in me.” During revival services God very clearly spoke to me about what if revival happened and it only happened to me. Would I still be revived?
Now, if you know anything about me I am a team player. I work so much better as a team. Yesterday I had a soulwinning partner and because of a opportunity she wasn’t able to come. I was slightly deflated and thought about not going. Then the Lord let Kristen go with me. I will sometimes get Amber or Elizabeth to go with me to do things for church. Sure, I could do that work for the church by myself but I work better with people. It scares me to think of me being the only one.
God did a work in my heart during revival services. Tuesday night of the revival services I told God that if He only did a revival work in one person I would be willing to be that one. And boy, it was wonderful Tuesday. Many people came forward. God didn’t just do a work in one person . . . He did it in several. Now that made my decision easy.
But many weeks have passed. Hearts have cooled. God still wants to do a work but day to day life has set in. Some have even said No to God since then. Some have placed other things before God. It has been discouraging. What now? Do I quit? Do I stop letting God have control of my life? Do I join those who have let their love for God cool?
During revival services my husband told Amie in the car something I had actually never known. He was telling her about standing before God one day and he made the statement that several people say, “Oh look at all Jesus did for me on the cross because of that I owe Him this service.” I used to believe that. Do you realize that Ephesians 2:8, 9 throws that philosophy right out the window. Romans 3:23 states that it is a GIFT! If you have to work for it afterwards it is NOT a gift! I don’t serve God because of the price Jesus paid for me. I serve God because He first loved me. Sure He demonstrated His love for me by Jesus dying on the cross but that’s not why I serve Him. Because in all practicality that would make it a work salvation.
Jesus, as a young teenage boy, had been separated from his parents. When they got back to him, in their adrenaline and fear they must have gotten onto him because He said, “I must be about my Father’s business.” In a later passage He said, “I am come to seek and to save that which is lost.” See that Jesus was concerned about the eternal. Now He used the temporal sometimes to get that work done, i.e. healing a physical ailment to show them their need of His spiritual help. I believe that this dear man used the temporal to point people to Jesus. I believe in his quiet manner he would help people and show a gentle, loving side of Jesus.
You know, I came to a realize this past week. I have gotten my focus off again. Sure VBS is important but telling people about Jesus and letting HIM do a work in their life is what is important! Sure, the Ladies’ Class is important but what is it here for? Why do it? So we can tell people about Jesus and let Him make a difference in their life! Why do I teach piano? So I can point people to Jesus and let Him do a work in their life! Why do I homeschool my children? So I can raise my children to love and serve God and teach them to point people to Jesus! Why do I clean my house? So I can have people over in a comfortable clean environment and share with them what God has done in my life and teach them that God wants to do that and more in their life!
As I walked by that casket of that dear man a thought formed in my head and took root in my heart. I decided what I want it said of me when I one day lay there, that “She loved God and she told as many people as she could how to know God personally”. I want a whole line of people who walk by and maybe with tears in their eyes but a definitely a smile upon their face, say, "I know I’m going to see her in heaven and I’m so thankful I am because she told me about Jesus!"
Sure, revival is over. But I’m thankful that He which hath begun a good work in me will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ! He’s not finished with me yet! He’s still got a long way but I know one thing! I was to take every opportunity I can to tell others about Christ!
Let’s keep the main thing the main thing, and the main thing is soulwinning. Let’s be about our Father’s business, to seek and to save that which is lost. You know, I write this and that last statement sounds as if I would rally the troops . . . I would love nothing better than to do that but I’ll tell you this, even if none of you will . . . I will. I will be faithful to God and to tell others about Him. I will be faithful to His service!
Saturday, March 29, 2014
My Grandpa
Isn't it great when the weather accommodates your mood? I sit here on this cold spring day with clouds of gray and bits of nasty snow careening to the ground. I feel a lot like that today. Cold, lifeless, not a lot of color to be found, and bits of nasty pouring out of me. My grandpa died yesterday. I didn't think it was going to upset me because when my grandma died last year the only thing I was upset about was how upsetting it was to everyone else. The short time I had with my grandma, growing up was horrible. She was mean, my extended family got involved a lot. I just remember a lot of yelling, strife and contention. It was the only time in my life, the police were called to my home for domestic violence. My grandma was pitching a whopper of fit and it had turned into my fault. People were yelling and screaming and slapping each other. Some will fault me for speaking of it, but it doesn't change the fact that it happened and as a young teenager it was a horrifying experience. Now, to not speak ill of the dead, when my grandma got older she was the sweetest little thing you would ever meet. Her personality dramatically altered with dementia. My younger siblings had the opportunity to experience a completely different grandma. So that is probably why they were so sad . . . now that I stop to think about it, but I told you that bits of nasty, just like the snow that stubborning clings to spring comes pouring out of the sky, bits of nasty seem to pour out of me. It's a process. Some might identify with and others may shake their head and wonder who gave this girl internet and a blog!
Yesterday I received a call . . . thankfully not a Facebook status about my grandpa (I found out about my grandma by my cousin's Facebook statuses.) I do appreciate my mom taking the time to tell me. My grandpa had had a stroke at the beginning of the week, was not able to eat, so they put a feeding tube in him, but that caused an infection. His heart, too weak from the stroke, wasn't able to keep up the blood flow needed to repair him and actually his insides rotted away. That's the clinical side of it. When I first heard he wasn't doing well, I was clinical about it. I didn't think I would cry or be upset having handled my grandma's death so well! (I say that with a WHOLE lot of sarcasm.) We had a fun day planned. We were going with a bunch of church kids to a bounce house experience! It was going to be a lot of fun! The kids were looking forward to playing. I was looking forward to some girl time with a couple other ladies. I wasn't going to be a pastor's wife that day . . . I had decided. I was just going to be one of the moms with one of the many kids in the crowd. I was going to laugh, joke, have fun, etc. I wasn't going to offer advice, I wasn't going to teach, I was just going to enjoy the fellowship of two dear ladies and really enjoy myself. We pulled into Wendy's and I got the call that the surgery didn't go well, they closed him up and said it would be a matter of hours at most a couple of days and he would die. I cried. I quick called my husband (he has this super power to calm me down, I love him so much) I cried again. He said, he would love to send me out if we could afford stand I thanked him for that sweet sentiment. I tried to get a hold of myself but it was too much. I cried again. You know, I really put a damper on our fun day! That knowledge came to me briefly and I cried some more. I told myself to get a hold of myself. Then I cried out to God and asked Him to get a hold of me. The rest of the day I talked, I might have laughed, I don't remember, at lest I didn't cry. Oh, I did lose my debit card, that is proof I wasn't completely myself. It was hard to process much yesterday, with such sad news in such a happy and colorful place.
Yesterday was kind of a blur. I held a lot in, surprisingly a lot more than I realize. I really loved my grandpa. I didn't know my mom's parents and I didn't really like my grandma (I loved her with christian love but I never really liked her). But I loved and liked my grandpa. Sure, my grandpa made mistakes he was human being. But instead of the mistakes I want to tell you some things I loved about my grandpa and some things he passed down to me. You see, I don't have a thing in my house given to me from my grandparents. I own nothing that belonged to them. Nothing I can touch that they once touched, nothing I can smell that has their scent lingering there, nothing. Part of that made me sad (I really don't know why, but I suspect it is part of the processing process aka grief). I remember when we went to visit my grandpa in Spokane, WA. It was so beautiful there. It was one of the two vacations we took as kids. My grandpa reminisced about my parents as young people. He even told me the joke he told for my mother the first time my dad brought her over for Sunday dinner! He always seemed to have a cup of coffee in his hand. I remember how my grandparents and then the whole clan moved out to TN. I remember the time before all the clan came, when I had my grandpa all to myself for a short wonderful while! I remember how calm he seemed. He would walk around the block with me, coffee in hand, regaling me tales of being in the ministry. My grandpa was a Southern Baptist Preacher (he later became independent baptist). He told me about pastoring, about dealing with people problems. He loved being in the ministry. He had also been in the Air Force but he loved the ministry.
I remember when things would erupt with the clan. My grandpa would usually be the peace keeper or he'd end up in the hospital with chest pains and that usually calmed everyone down. I remember the first time I had enough money saved up to take my grandpa to coffee. To treat my grandpa instead of him always treating other people. I clutched my handful of coins and asked him if he would like to go to coffee ( I get my love of coffee from my grandpa!) I remember how we went out that day. Just the two of us. It is one of the few times I had my grandpa all to myself. He smiled down at me, even as a kid I knew he was humoring me and that in a different way I was humoring him. We talked. I asked questions and he talked. I loved listening to my grandpa talk.
I remember the times I got to play the piano for my grandpa to sing in church. That was exciting. I remember him telling me to keep up the playing and one day I would be great. I'm not great but his encouragement got me a lot further than I would have ever gotten without it! I remember many good times with my grandpa.
I remember the first set of pearls I received, they were from my grandpa. They came in this beautiful black velvet pouch. They were gorgeous! They actually had been a forgotten present. Not till we took down the Christmas tree did we find it fallen under the tree skirt of the tree! I love pearls now, If you were take all my costume jewelry away and only let me have one, I would choose pearls hands down, every time!
There are a few things that really shine about my grandpa, (despite the nasty weather outside). His love for people. He would give you the shirt off your back if he hadn't already given it to someone else and it didn't matter how many times you wronged him, he was a pretty forgiving man. It took a lot for my grandpa to write you off and it usually only happened when you did something to his family. He loved having people over. He loved ministering to them. He loved serving them. He would have 50 people over his house, feed them well, as in steaks, and provide fellowship. He put up with a lot of nonsense from my extended family and still loved them fiercely. He often loved the unloveable. They would find refuge and acceptance in his home. He was quick to admit his mistakes and quick to try to work on them. I never knew my grandpa when he was a pastor but I saw it every time he helped people, every time he opened his home, every time he talked to people. He had a pastor's heart. Even up until his death he had opened his home to a new church plant in Mesa, AZ to have their mid-week service in his house. He loved God and what God loved, he loved the church. My grandpa would have church people over just to love on them. Not to take the place of the pastor, no, he always fiercely defended the pastor and even when he had to leave a church due to the pastor's behavior he refused to talk bad about God's man. He told me over the phone, "It is what it is, God has moved me on." When my husband and I contemplated starting a church in Phoenix he promised to help if God moved us down there. He was generous and kind.
My grandpa called me sweetheart. All the time. I don't know how many girls he called sweetheart but he called me sweetheart. It was always so comforting. I remember vividly the first time my boyfriend called me sweetheart and how I cried a few months later when I called my grandpa to tell him about my boyfriend and he called me sweetheart and I realized why I loved being called sweetheart by my boyfriend! It was a bit of love given me by my grandpa that when spoken will continue to touch my heart!
I wish I had known him better. We didn't live around my grandpa except for a few years growing up and then we lived so far away that we couldn't go visit often. And even though I have nothing to hold of his, I have some far more important things he gave me, my love of coffee and pearls, my love of God and what God loved, the church, and my love of opening my home to people of all kind! I will miss my grandpa, but he is in heaven, no pain, no suffering, no more drama. He is with the God he loved and served so faithfully in every way he was capable of for so many years! If I have the opportunity to grow old I hope I will be like my grandpa, "when I am old and gray headed, O God, forsake me not till I have shewn thy strength unto this generation and thy power to everyone that is to come."
Yesterday I received a call . . . thankfully not a Facebook status about my grandpa (I found out about my grandma by my cousin's Facebook statuses.) I do appreciate my mom taking the time to tell me. My grandpa had had a stroke at the beginning of the week, was not able to eat, so they put a feeding tube in him, but that caused an infection. His heart, too weak from the stroke, wasn't able to keep up the blood flow needed to repair him and actually his insides rotted away. That's the clinical side of it. When I first heard he wasn't doing well, I was clinical about it. I didn't think I would cry or be upset having handled my grandma's death so well! (I say that with a WHOLE lot of sarcasm.) We had a fun day planned. We were going with a bunch of church kids to a bounce house experience! It was going to be a lot of fun! The kids were looking forward to playing. I was looking forward to some girl time with a couple other ladies. I wasn't going to be a pastor's wife that day . . . I had decided. I was just going to be one of the moms with one of the many kids in the crowd. I was going to laugh, joke, have fun, etc. I wasn't going to offer advice, I wasn't going to teach, I was just going to enjoy the fellowship of two dear ladies and really enjoy myself. We pulled into Wendy's and I got the call that the surgery didn't go well, they closed him up and said it would be a matter of hours at most a couple of days and he would die. I cried. I quick called my husband (he has this super power to calm me down, I love him so much) I cried again. He said, he would love to send me out if we could afford stand I thanked him for that sweet sentiment. I tried to get a hold of myself but it was too much. I cried again. You know, I really put a damper on our fun day! That knowledge came to me briefly and I cried some more. I told myself to get a hold of myself. Then I cried out to God and asked Him to get a hold of me. The rest of the day I talked, I might have laughed, I don't remember, at lest I didn't cry. Oh, I did lose my debit card, that is proof I wasn't completely myself. It was hard to process much yesterday, with such sad news in such a happy and colorful place.
Yesterday was kind of a blur. I held a lot in, surprisingly a lot more than I realize. I really loved my grandpa. I didn't know my mom's parents and I didn't really like my grandma (I loved her with christian love but I never really liked her). But I loved and liked my grandpa. Sure, my grandpa made mistakes he was human being. But instead of the mistakes I want to tell you some things I loved about my grandpa and some things he passed down to me. You see, I don't have a thing in my house given to me from my grandparents. I own nothing that belonged to them. Nothing I can touch that they once touched, nothing I can smell that has their scent lingering there, nothing. Part of that made me sad (I really don't know why, but I suspect it is part of the processing process aka grief). I remember when we went to visit my grandpa in Spokane, WA. It was so beautiful there. It was one of the two vacations we took as kids. My grandpa reminisced about my parents as young people. He even told me the joke he told for my mother the first time my dad brought her over for Sunday dinner! He always seemed to have a cup of coffee in his hand. I remember how my grandparents and then the whole clan moved out to TN. I remember the time before all the clan came, when I had my grandpa all to myself for a short wonderful while! I remember how calm he seemed. He would walk around the block with me, coffee in hand, regaling me tales of being in the ministry. My grandpa was a Southern Baptist Preacher (he later became independent baptist). He told me about pastoring, about dealing with people problems. He loved being in the ministry. He had also been in the Air Force but he loved the ministry.
I remember when things would erupt with the clan. My grandpa would usually be the peace keeper or he'd end up in the hospital with chest pains and that usually calmed everyone down. I remember the first time I had enough money saved up to take my grandpa to coffee. To treat my grandpa instead of him always treating other people. I clutched my handful of coins and asked him if he would like to go to coffee ( I get my love of coffee from my grandpa!) I remember how we went out that day. Just the two of us. It is one of the few times I had my grandpa all to myself. He smiled down at me, even as a kid I knew he was humoring me and that in a different way I was humoring him. We talked. I asked questions and he talked. I loved listening to my grandpa talk.
I remember the times I got to play the piano for my grandpa to sing in church. That was exciting. I remember him telling me to keep up the playing and one day I would be great. I'm not great but his encouragement got me a lot further than I would have ever gotten without it! I remember many good times with my grandpa.
I remember the first set of pearls I received, they were from my grandpa. They came in this beautiful black velvet pouch. They were gorgeous! They actually had been a forgotten present. Not till we took down the Christmas tree did we find it fallen under the tree skirt of the tree! I love pearls now, If you were take all my costume jewelry away and only let me have one, I would choose pearls hands down, every time!
There are a few things that really shine about my grandpa, (despite the nasty weather outside). His love for people. He would give you the shirt off your back if he hadn't already given it to someone else and it didn't matter how many times you wronged him, he was a pretty forgiving man. It took a lot for my grandpa to write you off and it usually only happened when you did something to his family. He loved having people over. He loved ministering to them. He loved serving them. He would have 50 people over his house, feed them well, as in steaks, and provide fellowship. He put up with a lot of nonsense from my extended family and still loved them fiercely. He often loved the unloveable. They would find refuge and acceptance in his home. He was quick to admit his mistakes and quick to try to work on them. I never knew my grandpa when he was a pastor but I saw it every time he helped people, every time he opened his home, every time he talked to people. He had a pastor's heart. Even up until his death he had opened his home to a new church plant in Mesa, AZ to have their mid-week service in his house. He loved God and what God loved, he loved the church. My grandpa would have church people over just to love on them. Not to take the place of the pastor, no, he always fiercely defended the pastor and even when he had to leave a church due to the pastor's behavior he refused to talk bad about God's man. He told me over the phone, "It is what it is, God has moved me on." When my husband and I contemplated starting a church in Phoenix he promised to help if God moved us down there. He was generous and kind.
My grandpa called me sweetheart. All the time. I don't know how many girls he called sweetheart but he called me sweetheart. It was always so comforting. I remember vividly the first time my boyfriend called me sweetheart and how I cried a few months later when I called my grandpa to tell him about my boyfriend and he called me sweetheart and I realized why I loved being called sweetheart by my boyfriend! It was a bit of love given me by my grandpa that when spoken will continue to touch my heart!
I wish I had known him better. We didn't live around my grandpa except for a few years growing up and then we lived so far away that we couldn't go visit often. And even though I have nothing to hold of his, I have some far more important things he gave me, my love of coffee and pearls, my love of God and what God loved, the church, and my love of opening my home to people of all kind! I will miss my grandpa, but he is in heaven, no pain, no suffering, no more drama. He is with the God he loved and served so faithfully in every way he was capable of for so many years! If I have the opportunity to grow old I hope I will be like my grandpa, "when I am old and gray headed, O God, forsake me not till I have shewn thy strength unto this generation and thy power to everyone that is to come."
Monday, March 10, 2014
Friendship and Disagreements
I have a question about friendship. Since when did being friends mean you can't disagree with your friend and you can't tell them they are wrong? Have you noticed that trend in America? If you are my friend, then you are going to agree with everything I say and everything I do. NO, I'm not for a very basic reason that I am not you and I am different than you. Because I'm human and you are human and we are both flawed and going to make mistakes. I don't even agree with everything I DO and Say, so trying to get me to agree with everything you do and say, forget it!
Does the bible have anything to say about this? Why actually it does! Proverbs 27:6 says that "Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." Then there is that ever quoted famous verse from Proverbs 27:17, "Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend." Speaking about agreeing with your friends and sometimes intentionally wounding your friend with the intent of helping them, we see that the bible is clear. Sometimes we do have to tell our friends hard things that will potentially hurt their feelings. Sometimes we have to disagree with our friend. Sometimes they are wrong and if we are going to be a REAL friend we must speak the truth to them IN LOVE! Colossians 4:6 exhorts us to "Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." And Ephesians 4:29 tells us to "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers." When we have to reprove a friend, we need to make sure it is for their good. It is to edify, to build them up, to minister grace, to help them be the best version of themselves that they can be. When those times come that you have to "talk" to your friend can I offer a few practical suggestions.
1. Examine your heart and ask why are you going to talk to that friend?
2. What do you want the end result to be?
3. Do you have a bible principle that will support what you are saying? If so use it, the bible is the only thing promised to not return void.
4. Remember, people will not always remember what you do and say but they will remember how you made them feel. There is a way to get on to someone and still make them feel special and valuable. Remind them that you love them and that love for them is what spurred you to say what you did. Remind them they are valuable and it is only one mistake, it's not the end of their life . . . yet.
5. Pray, Pray, and PRAY. Then when you go to meet with them, pray again with them. Ask them to pray out loud. Ask them to pray for you and that you will say what God wants you to say and how to say it. Pray out loud for them that they will hear what God has laid on your heart. This will keep God central in your discussion.
6. Don't attack the person . . . attack the problem! The person is NOT the problem, they made a mistake, they are not the mistake!
7. Be honest. Be clear. Use simple language. Don't complicate the matter with lots of words but don't lie about how you feel or the situation. That won't help anyone, you or your friend.
8. This is a big one: ACT, don't react. As women, we are natural reactors. Determine before hand that you are going to be sweet, kind, and nice. That you are going to move at every impulse of the Holy Spirit and as a result you are going to do and say what God wants you to.
But what about those times when you offend your friend unintentionally? There are times when being human you will hurt your friend. There are times when you will make a mistake, say an ill word, be an outright grouch and go around wreaking havoc on some poor unsuspecting friend. The bible says that "A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle." When we offend or think we have offended, Matthew 18 gives some clear instructions on what to do. We are to go to our friend and, NOT with a haughty attitude, but rather a humble attitude seeking their forgiveness. Ask them to explain what you did wrong (IF you don't know) with the attitude of being able to correct your behavior. Be sincere. Don't be judgmental. If your friend is able to identify how you were wrong, apologize. Ask them to forgive you. Ask them to pray with you then, out loud, pray and ask God to forgive your wrong and to help you do better.
There is certain level of maturity that comes in in realizing that we are not going to agree with everyone 100% and that that is ok! If we all agreed 100% with everyone we would be nothing short of robots, but thankfully we are not! We are individuals and we all have the potential to make it better for someone else here on earth! But whatever we do, let it be with grace so as to help our friends.
Does the bible have anything to say about this? Why actually it does! Proverbs 27:6 says that "Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." Then there is that ever quoted famous verse from Proverbs 27:17, "Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend." Speaking about agreeing with your friends and sometimes intentionally wounding your friend with the intent of helping them, we see that the bible is clear. Sometimes we do have to tell our friends hard things that will potentially hurt their feelings. Sometimes we have to disagree with our friend. Sometimes they are wrong and if we are going to be a REAL friend we must speak the truth to them IN LOVE! Colossians 4:6 exhorts us to "Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." And Ephesians 4:29 tells us to "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers." When we have to reprove a friend, we need to make sure it is for their good. It is to edify, to build them up, to minister grace, to help them be the best version of themselves that they can be. When those times come that you have to "talk" to your friend can I offer a few practical suggestions.
1. Examine your heart and ask why are you going to talk to that friend?
2. What do you want the end result to be?
3. Do you have a bible principle that will support what you are saying? If so use it, the bible is the only thing promised to not return void.
4. Remember, people will not always remember what you do and say but they will remember how you made them feel. There is a way to get on to someone and still make them feel special and valuable. Remind them that you love them and that love for them is what spurred you to say what you did. Remind them they are valuable and it is only one mistake, it's not the end of their life . . . yet.
5. Pray, Pray, and PRAY. Then when you go to meet with them, pray again with them. Ask them to pray out loud. Ask them to pray for you and that you will say what God wants you to say and how to say it. Pray out loud for them that they will hear what God has laid on your heart. This will keep God central in your discussion.
6. Don't attack the person . . . attack the problem! The person is NOT the problem, they made a mistake, they are not the mistake!
7. Be honest. Be clear. Use simple language. Don't complicate the matter with lots of words but don't lie about how you feel or the situation. That won't help anyone, you or your friend.
8. This is a big one: ACT, don't react. As women, we are natural reactors. Determine before hand that you are going to be sweet, kind, and nice. That you are going to move at every impulse of the Holy Spirit and as a result you are going to do and say what God wants you to.
But what about those times when you offend your friend unintentionally? There are times when being human you will hurt your friend. There are times when you will make a mistake, say an ill word, be an outright grouch and go around wreaking havoc on some poor unsuspecting friend. The bible says that "A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle." When we offend or think we have offended, Matthew 18 gives some clear instructions on what to do. We are to go to our friend and, NOT with a haughty attitude, but rather a humble attitude seeking their forgiveness. Ask them to explain what you did wrong (IF you don't know) with the attitude of being able to correct your behavior. Be sincere. Don't be judgmental. If your friend is able to identify how you were wrong, apologize. Ask them to forgive you. Ask them to pray with you then, out loud, pray and ask God to forgive your wrong and to help you do better.
There is certain level of maturity that comes in in realizing that we are not going to agree with everyone 100% and that that is ok! If we all agreed 100% with everyone we would be nothing short of robots, but thankfully we are not! We are individuals and we all have the potential to make it better for someone else here on earth! But whatever we do, let it be with grace so as to help our friends.
Monday, February 10, 2014
When do we grow out of needing friends?
I've been thinking about a thought recently. . . friendship. We encourage friendship . . . in our children. It is important for us that our children/teens are liked enough by others to have friends, and, at least I hope, it is important for our children to be the right kind of friend. Friendship seems to come more naturally for us to develop in our children. We develop their friendship by having their friends over our house. We let our children go to their house. We take our children and their friends places. We let our children give gifts to their friends. We let them do things for their friends and with their friends. But we, ourselves have grown out of needing that same bonding. We rarely model for them how to be a friend, and/or having the right kinds of friends. We are so busy we don't have time to have other ladies over. We are so busy being grown up we don't take the time we need to just hang out with our girl friends. We are so busy being "spiritual" that we don't take time to be with other women unless it is inside the confines of ministry. We never just have people over to spend time with them . . . we have to have a purpose . . . we have to be ministering to them . . . we have to be fixing their problems then that somehow justifies us having them over or going to coffee with them. We crowd our schedules with making money, running our kids around, cleaning our house, serving at church, etc. but we forget to leave time for friendships. We are too grown up for that . . . or are we? At what time do we not need the stress relief of a good belly laugh with a friend? At what time do we no longer need advice for the changing seasons of our life? At what time do we grow up enough that we have it all together and never need help? At what time do we need to stop modeling for our children not only how to BE the right kind of friend, who to have as a friend, but how to develop a friendship?
Maybe we have forgotten how to . . . maybe, instead of growing out of needing friends, we've simply forgotten what it was like to sit on the bed with our friend and paint our toes as we share a moment, as we share our thoughts and ideas about life, about boys, about what ifs. Maybe we've gotten so busy or our husbands are grouches and we don't know how to entertain anymore. Somehow it's ok for us to entertain little people but we ourselves feel awkward doing it with adults. Maybe our friends will realize we don't have as nice of a house as we'd like and so we don't want to open ourselves up to that. Maybe our husbands selfishly hold us back from having people over because they don't want people to see our house. Maybe we just aren't good house keepers and we need to clean. One thought here: You can have the nicest house and furniture in the world and people might not feel comfortable in your home, you can also have the junkiest furniture in the world and people might feel comfortable . . . it all depends on the people in the home. YOU make people feel comfortable and welcome in your home, your inanimate objects DO NOT!
So that begs the question how do we be the right kind of friend, who is the right kind of friend to have, and how do we develop our friendships? Also one more . . . does the bible, our basis for life, have anything to say on friendship? I will be answering these questions in the upcoming blogposts, but for now feel free to leave your comments! I would love to hear from you on some answers you have to these questions!
Maybe we have forgotten how to . . . maybe, instead of growing out of needing friends, we've simply forgotten what it was like to sit on the bed with our friend and paint our toes as we share a moment, as we share our thoughts and ideas about life, about boys, about what ifs. Maybe we've gotten so busy or our husbands are grouches and we don't know how to entertain anymore. Somehow it's ok for us to entertain little people but we ourselves feel awkward doing it with adults. Maybe our friends will realize we don't have as nice of a house as we'd like and so we don't want to open ourselves up to that. Maybe our husbands selfishly hold us back from having people over because they don't want people to see our house. Maybe we just aren't good house keepers and we need to clean. One thought here: You can have the nicest house and furniture in the world and people might not feel comfortable in your home, you can also have the junkiest furniture in the world and people might feel comfortable . . . it all depends on the people in the home. YOU make people feel comfortable and welcome in your home, your inanimate objects DO NOT!
So that begs the question how do we be the right kind of friend, who is the right kind of friend to have, and how do we develop our friendships? Also one more . . . does the bible, our basis for life, have anything to say on friendship? I will be answering these questions in the upcoming blogposts, but for now feel free to leave your comments! I would love to hear from you on some answers you have to these questions!
Friday, February 7, 2014
Seek His Face in the Book . . .
Recently I have asked several ladies what it would be like if you woke up, your husband woke up and you didn't say a word to each other. He didn't acknowledge your presence. He sat across from you drinking his coffee, checking his Facebook. He calmly went into the kitchen and washed his dishes. He got his shower, he bumped into you on his way to get dressed, but didn't say a thing. He left for work, never texted during the day to see how you were doing or see if you needed anything from the store. He came home, ate dinner, didn't say thank you, didn't say anything for that matter. Read a little, watched a movie, never once asking what you'd like to do for the evening. Then he goes to bed. You being a good wife, think that perhaps he is deep in thought so you don't want to disturb him. You let him go. The next day he does the same thing all over again. I don't care how good of a wife you are, by this time you begin to wonder what is wrong with you. You glance in the mirror to see if you have some terrible something wrong with your face, nothing you look the same as normal. You tentatively raise your arm and sniff at your body but everything there seems to be ok. I daresay any of else would let this behavior go for more than a couple of days, actually after an hour of this behavior we would probably be looking at our husbands and say, "Look Bub! What's up?!" Or something less nicer. You wouldn't let your husband completely ignore you. You wouldn't let him get away with that. You might begin to think there is something wrong with you. You have given your life for this guy. Sure, you could have had ANY guy on the planet but you graciously chose him . . . well, in all honestly you were thrilled when he asked you, but still, you know you're not ugly, you know you are a decent and albeit somewhat pretty woman. There ARE other fish in the sea but when he asked, you were thrilled to say yes! Now, this is the man you cook for, you clean for, you don't look at other hot guys with their six packs because of him. You don't dream about other guys because of him. You have given up a lot for him. And he is completely ignoring you! Very few of us would let this go on for more than the morning. Oh they may get by with it because of work and needing to be on time but at the end of the day if he hadn't said a word, buddy it would be ON!
Now, let me ask you. How do you think God feels when you wake up. Your hair is a wreck, it's sideways and up ways, and thisaways and not the way it should be. You take your bad breath and stumble into the bathroom and brush those teeth God has given you. Now you can talk without fear of knocking anyone out, but do you take the time to praise the God who made you . . . no you completely ignore Him. You start the coffee and sit down with that beautiful cup of chai tea so hot, and steamy, and creamy and delicious and never once thank Him for providing it. You eat your breakfast and don't stop to thank Him . . . maybe you do. Maybe you have the decency to pause and offer a trite thank you to the God of all heaven who cares about the smallest details of your life. By this time, you realize you have spent more time on Facebook and Candy Crush than you should have so you rush in to the bed room and pick out your clothes. You hurriedly take your shower, throw on your clothes and go out the door. You never stop to read your bible. You never stop to take time with the One who cares more for you than His own life itself. You may pause and think you need to spend time with God and that you'll do that when you get home. You go throughout your day. You pause for lunch, but not to pray. You rush home and make dinner for the starving natives. You help the children through their homework. You find your day slowing down but do you stop to think that this would be a great time to read your bible and spend time with the Beloved? No, that tv show is calling your name and it is so loud you can't hear your Savior, gently calling and pleading to spend time with you. You watch that show, do the dishes and get ready for bed. Never once spending real time thinking about the God who not only saved you from hell but saved you to have a deep and meaningful relationship with Him. You go to bed, wake up and do the whole thing again, tomorrow, the next day and the next. Oh you're a good little christian though, because YOU go to church and even help in the nursery! But you never feel God's presence on a day to day basis. You never know the peace that comes from spending time with God and giving God complete control of you life, thoughts, actions, attitude, day, etc. You live a less than mediocre life, you die, and you get to heaven.
There you see your Savior. The One who not only knew how many hairs you have on your head but gave numbers to each of them. The One who said that He knew when a sparrow fell to the ground but that you meant more to Him than many sparrows. The One who was more of a friend to you than a brother. He let you completely ignore Him day to day and still loved you and did things for you and was there when you needed Him! The One who said willingly gave His life for you. You see the wounds in His hands that speaks to that sacrifice for you. You see His lovely face. Your eyes connect with His but you look away. You realize you spent more of your life with Facebook than His Book. You realize you spent more time talking on the phone telling your friends your problems than you did on your knees telling the One who could handle the problem. You realize that so much of your life was wasted . . . the relationship you could have had . . . the people He wanted you to tell about Him are lost and in Hell . . . simply because you did not spend time with Him like he so desperately wanted you to!
You know the cool thing is . . . this is all hypothetical . . . you're not in heaven. You are here on earth. There is still time, yet even today to start to spend quality time with the One who loves you more than anyone could ever love you!
Now, let me ask you. How do you think God feels when you wake up. Your hair is a wreck, it's sideways and up ways, and thisaways and not the way it should be. You take your bad breath and stumble into the bathroom and brush those teeth God has given you. Now you can talk without fear of knocking anyone out, but do you take the time to praise the God who made you . . . no you completely ignore Him. You start the coffee and sit down with that beautiful cup of chai tea so hot, and steamy, and creamy and delicious and never once thank Him for providing it. You eat your breakfast and don't stop to thank Him . . . maybe you do. Maybe you have the decency to pause and offer a trite thank you to the God of all heaven who cares about the smallest details of your life. By this time, you realize you have spent more time on Facebook and Candy Crush than you should have so you rush in to the bed room and pick out your clothes. You hurriedly take your shower, throw on your clothes and go out the door. You never stop to read your bible. You never stop to take time with the One who cares more for you than His own life itself. You may pause and think you need to spend time with God and that you'll do that when you get home. You go throughout your day. You pause for lunch, but not to pray. You rush home and make dinner for the starving natives. You help the children through their homework. You find your day slowing down but do you stop to think that this would be a great time to read your bible and spend time with the Beloved? No, that tv show is calling your name and it is so loud you can't hear your Savior, gently calling and pleading to spend time with you. You watch that show, do the dishes and get ready for bed. Never once spending real time thinking about the God who not only saved you from hell but saved you to have a deep and meaningful relationship with Him. You go to bed, wake up and do the whole thing again, tomorrow, the next day and the next. Oh you're a good little christian though, because YOU go to church and even help in the nursery! But you never feel God's presence on a day to day basis. You never know the peace that comes from spending time with God and giving God complete control of you life, thoughts, actions, attitude, day, etc. You live a less than mediocre life, you die, and you get to heaven.
There you see your Savior. The One who not only knew how many hairs you have on your head but gave numbers to each of them. The One who said that He knew when a sparrow fell to the ground but that you meant more to Him than many sparrows. The One who was more of a friend to you than a brother. He let you completely ignore Him day to day and still loved you and did things for you and was there when you needed Him! The One who said willingly gave His life for you. You see the wounds in His hands that speaks to that sacrifice for you. You see His lovely face. Your eyes connect with His but you look away. You realize you spent more of your life with Facebook than His Book. You realize you spent more time talking on the phone telling your friends your problems than you did on your knees telling the One who could handle the problem. You realize that so much of your life was wasted . . . the relationship you could have had . . . the people He wanted you to tell about Him are lost and in Hell . . . simply because you did not spend time with Him like he so desperately wanted you to!
You know the cool thing is . . . this is all hypothetical . . . you're not in heaven. You are here on earth. There is still time, yet even today to start to spend quality time with the One who loves you more than anyone could ever love you!
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
When God wrecks your car . . .
This past few weeks we had a terrible snow storm that kept us in our homes for several days. I decided to hunker down and enjoy the slow pace because we usually go go go all the time. Five or Six days out we decided to head out. The roads were not yet perfect and our van was in desperate need of new tires. As we were going there was a truck buried in a snowbank. I looked at it and told my husband that God had really protected us. The next thought from the Holy Spirit was, "Would you still praise God if that was you in the snowbank?" I thought about that and started praying and telling God that my children, my life, my influence, my time, my car were His and whatever He wanted to do was ok with me." As I prayed that last part our van swerved and landed in a snowbank and trees and well, a wreck. A man came along and pulled us out. It was worse than we hoped. We took the van down to our local body shop where a church member works and they decided to keep it. Our insurance gave us a car, it is so awesome! Heated seats, nice tires, woodgrain on the inside! It's beautiful! As we were int he snowbank waiting for our tow truck I told God thank you for wrecking us. Not thank you for what He was going to do but thank you for wrecking us and no matter what happened I was going to praise Him.
Let me tell you some things that were wrong with our van.
1. Bald Tires
2. Radiator was dying
3. Needed an alignment
The tires alone were over $100 each. The front tires were the worst. We have been trying to save for tires but haven't been able to get very far. Well, when we wrecked we had a $500 deductible. So there went the tire money and then some! The radiator went completely when we wrecked. And something else that gets messed up when you replace the radiator went bad. So the insurance fixed that. And we got an alignment because the whole thing got hit out of alignment worse than it was.
The church member told us that they worked out our deductible and it was $150. But here's the clincher: We decided to pay tithe this week, knowing that if we did we would not have enough for the deductible but trusting God to take care of it. A gentleman in the church gave us $100. Then another one gave us $60. That's $10 extra for the deductible. Then another man gave us a $200 walmart gift card for groceries! That will pay for 2 weeks worth of groceries or more! I'l tell you what . . . YOU CANNOT OUT-GIVE GOD! Be faithful.
So not only do we have our needs met, but we have 2 new tires, a new radiator, an alignment and a few other things fixed on our car and all for $350 less than we were originally told! I'll tell you what, it wasn't easy to thank God for wrecking our van, but it's so much easier now. When God allows bad things to happen thank Him because He is going to use it for our good and for His glory! If you are going to thank Him for the good He is going to do from it, you need to thank Him for the bad that brought the good!
Let me tell you some things that were wrong with our van.
1. Bald Tires
2. Radiator was dying
3. Needed an alignment
The tires alone were over $100 each. The front tires were the worst. We have been trying to save for tires but haven't been able to get very far. Well, when we wrecked we had a $500 deductible. So there went the tire money and then some! The radiator went completely when we wrecked. And something else that gets messed up when you replace the radiator went bad. So the insurance fixed that. And we got an alignment because the whole thing got hit out of alignment worse than it was.
The church member told us that they worked out our deductible and it was $150. But here's the clincher: We decided to pay tithe this week, knowing that if we did we would not have enough for the deductible but trusting God to take care of it. A gentleman in the church gave us $100. Then another one gave us $60. That's $10 extra for the deductible. Then another man gave us a $200 walmart gift card for groceries! That will pay for 2 weeks worth of groceries or more! I'l tell you what . . . YOU CANNOT OUT-GIVE GOD! Be faithful.
So not only do we have our needs met, but we have 2 new tires, a new radiator, an alignment and a few other things fixed on our car and all for $350 less than we were originally told! I'll tell you what, it wasn't easy to thank God for wrecking our van, but it's so much easier now. When God allows bad things to happen thank Him because He is going to use it for our good and for His glory! If you are going to thank Him for the good He is going to do from it, you need to thank Him for the bad that brought the good!
Sunday, January 19, 2014
Their Favorite Outfits
My Kiddos
This was Abby's Christmas gift from a lady in TN. I love this hat on Drew. It is his winter hat. I got it 2 sizes too big so it'll fit him longer! I got quite a deal on it! It was less than $3 brand new!!! 
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